The Skinny on Being "Skinny"
So I am a thin person. Most people respond to that with, "lucky you", but how lucky do you think I really am? There are just as many prejudices out there for "skinny" people as there are for fat people. The difference is that it is still socially acceptable to outwardly ridicule a thin person, but it is damn near a hate crime to call someone fat. Not that I think you should call someone fat, that's mean and it hurts, so where do people get off assuming that that doesn't go both ways?
It does hurt my feelings to be told that I am "skinny". I am not skinny. Skinny, to me at least, constitutes being unhealthy looking. I am within the weight range for my height, which by the way, spans over thirty pounds! So anyone who is 5'3" tall, you can weigh anywhere between 107 and 141 lbs. And still be considered within a healthy weight for your size.
So just to clear a few things up,
I may be thin, but that does not mean I don't have body image issues just like every other woman.
Being made fun of for my size does not help those issues.
Not being allowed to participate in discussions about body issues because I "don't have any room to talk" makes those issues even harder.
When a STRANGER sees me walk past and says "someone should feed that girl a hamburger!"(yes,that has happened) it makes me want to beat them about the head. One, I eat plenty. Two, is it okay to say to a big girl walking down the street "Some one should get that girl a slimfast!"? No, that's harassment.
I get told that I make people "sick" on a regular basis. It has also been added that I should "hurry up and get pregnant,and put on some weight so you can stop making us feel bad about ourselves." Yes, how rude of me to have forgotten that YOUR self esteem is MY responsibility.
I guess telling me to cover up all the time because you "don't want to see that" is great for my self esteem. But what does that matter, I'm thin, so I must have the life. Nope, no one looks at me and/or my body with disgust, contempt, anger, or hate. I have never been pre-judged due to my appearances. I guess I should have known I would be discovered sooner or later, going out looking the way I do. Just a skinny, anorexic, slut, bitch, attention whore who dares to go out in a pair of low slung jeans. Thanks for noticing the real me.
posted by coffeeslinger @ 11:01 AM
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awww hunnie. i dunno what inspired that rant...but whoever did it is probably regretting it right now. haha
i feel ya though. i guess i'm pretty average. i could stand to lose a few pounds by some standards, gain a few pounds by others...
i HATE when people make fun of my ass. good, bad, whatever. i have a big ass. i know it. you know it. everyone knows it. i dont want to hear about it dammit. it makes me insecure.
i also get tired, OH SO TIRED of hearing how i dont eat enough. or i eat like a bird.
i eat all the damn time. there's always some kind of food in my damn mouth. no, i dont eat big meals, but i never STOP eating during the day.
i am not sickly thin. i dont have an eating disorder, so please stop making fun of me for how little i eat. i eat enough to be full.
i actually have eaten way too much, just so someone wouldnt make fun of me for leaving so much on my plate. it's sad. seems like the past year, it's just gotten worse and worse.
ive lost a lot of weight in the past few months and i dont know why. but all of a sudden everyone is constantly talking about how i should eat more. i weight "what, a buck o'nine???" or whatever they say...that "i'd die if i ate as little as you do..."
everyone has their body issues. being thin, or having a big ass, or a small chest, or a big chest, or whatever doesnt mean you "have no room to talk". everyone feels less than ideal. everyone wants to be something that they are not, regardless of what they are working with.
so i feel ya on this babe. i really do.
Girl. You have an awesome body, and if some dumb fat bitch wants to be jealous then send her my way, and I will put her in her place. People and their jealousy. It's an ugly, ugly thing.
It's not JUST about what you eat, it's also genetics. My body will never look like yours, and vice versa, no matter what we do to ourselves, because, um, WE'RE NOT TWINS.
The next time someone makes a comment like that to you, tell them to shut the hell up, or your crazy bitch pregnant friend is gonna kick their ass. I'm not kidding.
It wasn't inspired by one person in particular, just something that's been building up for a while. The thing of it is, most of the time that things are said, they are not meant to be hurtful. They are said in jest or to dismiss a complaint I voice about myself. I know that no one is trying to hurt me. I just thought I would raise a little awareness about thinking about how what you say can, and does affect people.
I hear you. I think a lot of the time people (esp. friends) say things in a joking manner that are intended to be complimentary, but don't realize that after awhile it gets old. I know I've been guilty of saying things that I thought were funny but aren't (and here I am trying to rack my brain and remember if I'm guilty of telling your skinny ass to shut up, LMAO!), but I totally hear what you're saying.
*sigh* There are ways of saying nice things to people that are naturally thin, and then there are ways of subconsciously trying to make them feel guilty for looking good. I think sometimes it's a really fine line, and people don't necessarily realize they're doing something mean.
But, for the ones that are, I meant what I said. I will kick some bitch's ASS if they eff with you, GRILL!
This is all bulls..t. Any body who goes up to a person to tell them they are skinny is usually fat. They are trying to be mean. They really don't mean it as a compliment. They want to hurt the person. Being called skinny is an insult. It is always meant to be an insult, especially when it comes from a fat person. Fat people blame skinny people for their being fat. They look at skinny people and are always jealous and envious. We need to stop making excuses for their fat asses.
hey..right now i'm going through the Exact same thing! I don't have an eating disorder and I'm just tired of people calling me skinny, or a twig, and all that ignorant stuff. But looking at the last comment, it is true--when I think about the girls who have called me skinny..they are ALL overweight! but God forbid I tell them they look like a truck..its really unfair..but just learn to be happy with yourself and the next time they say something tell the fat bitch to shut the fuck up..lol just playing..just know that its PURE jealousy hun!
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